Changing Your Attitude!
Firstly, let’s look at everyday life in general.
While this article may not be directly related to Affiliate Marketing as promoted by Powerful Affiliate, it does address the issue of “attitude to life” which I believe will be useful in whatever role you fulfil in life and definitely worth reading.
Some time ago, I realised that people don’t really care about who you went out to dinner with or if you had an argument with one of the locals or even if you had intimate relations with a neighbour!!!!
For ‘people’ or ‘society’ it’s mostly all about gossip. These people don’t have anything better to do. Once they find something more exciting than what you did last weekend, your ‘mistake’ will be forgotten and they will move on to something or somebody else.
Plus, the most important thing that I’ve realised, is that when someone’s in trouble or they needed help of any kind – be it mentally, physically, emotionally or financially – suddenly, all the people who used to talk about them behind their back, have disappeared.
What did I learn from that? Well, if they’re not putting food on your plate, a roof over your head, or clothes on your back – then you don’t need to care about them. It’s as simple as that. Do what you want without worrying about what someone you don’t care about, says or thinks.
Find out how to change your attitude towards life…….that’s what I did.
Now, when someone comes up to tell me about all the gossip they’ve heard about me, I say, “Really? Hmm, that’s weird. I didn’t know that about myself! Cool! I didn’t know my life could be so mysterious and interesting.”
If you care and worry about what people say, they’ll say even more stuff to make you feel bad – they are a negative influence and you don’t need that or them in your life.
How and why I stopped worrying.
Something else that I realised was that I kept worrying about silly issues in my life that couldn’t be controlled.
Yes, I know, sometimes a small silly issue can cause mayhem – I have had that experience in the past.
What I do now is I stand back from the issue that’s causing the problem and weigh up the pros and cons OF MY LIFE and the current problem issue.
Without exception, it always turns out, there is more good than bad going on in my life.
It doesn’t matter if you sit down all day and worry about something that didn’t work out as you wanted – it won’t fix itself automatically just because you’re worrying and feeling sorry for yourself.
Life is like a roller coaster and there’s nothing wrong with that! Go along with the flow, don’t fight it, don’t overthink things.
I believe that time works in its own way. Time can fix things that seem impossible to fix, but give it some time – maybe just a few days – and things will change for the better. You must be positive and you do need to have patience.
I also strongly believe that when something doesn’t work out, you’ll get something even more rewarding in the future – again, you need the patience to look out for it with hope and faith.
If you can change it, then change it.
If you can’t change it, then move on.
There is no room for tears and stress.
I stopped worrying and went along with it, I stopped caring about some people and their ‘opinions’.
Instead, I started caring about me and those people who are most important to me.
I can proudly say that, despite some hardships I’ve had to endure, I’m probably happier than most, simply because I don’t give two hoots about the opinions of others and I’ve stopped worrying about what might be said or thought by those who are not important in my life.
Now, let’s move on and maybe get a bit more specific on the question “How to change your attitude towards life”.
This is a very good question, in fact it is such a good question, I am going to answer it with seven tips, from Powerful Affiliate, that I’m sure you can relate to and you will find helpful:
Seven Tips On Changing Your Attitude
#1 – Be honest with yourself.
If you’re feeling bad or down and your attitude towards life or work is quite poor, then admit it to yourself. Don’t live in denial. Accept there is an issue because only once you’ve accepted something for the way it is can you make a change.
#2 – Get some rest.
Have there been times when you’re overworked and stressed and you’re not getting as much rest as you should? How do you feel during those times? I bet you’re agitated and the smallest things can set you off. Often just getting some rest and forcing ourselves to take a break can be the best thing for our attitude. Adequate rest and sleep is a vital ingredient to maintaining a positive attitude.
#3 – Get clear on exactly what is causing you to have such a bad attitude.
What exactly is bothering you? Is it your boss? Your partner? Your kids? There have been many times when I know I’m not quite feeling right but I can’t put a finger on exactly what’s bothering me and until I can figure it out, my attitude remains bad. However, once I figure out exactly what is bothering me (and that usually only takes a few minutes of quiet reflection), I can then do something about it and my attitude immediately changes.
#4 – Look at the Consequences of your Bad Attitude.
For example, are you stressed at work because of impending deadlines? Is that causing you to snap at your kids and walk around the house with a bad attitude. If so, look at the consequences of that. Your poor kids and your partner have got nothing to do with how things are at work. So why should they cop the brunt of your poor attitude? If you continue with this, what’s going to happen? Things at home will only get worse and that will only make your attitude even worse. It’s a negative spiral which is very tough to get out of. So get clear on the consequences of your bad attitude. Who are you hurting as a result of being grumpy?
#5 – Do Something to change your attitude.
What can you do to improve your attitude? For example, if you’ve had a bad day at work and you’re about to walk in the door and see the family
with that same bad attitude, what can you do to change the way you feel? If I’m walking home, I will often take a longer route. The added exercise and fresh air often helps clear my head or I’ll start listening to some uplifting music which immediately improves my attitude. I might also go for a run or head to the gym. What can you do to change your attitude.
#6 – Change the way you are looking at the situation.
We all have trigger situations that cause us to get into a bad mood and to have a bad attitude toward life. Remember it is not the event, experience or problem in itself but rather the way we respond to it that makes us feel the way we do. For example, if you feel like you have too much to do at work, rather than complaining and wishing it will go away, take on your extra work as a challenge. Imagine how good it would feel to get through all this work and have your head about water again. Then, with your new positive attitude attack your workload with a new enthusiastic gusto. I guarantee that when you change the way you look at something, your attitude and your results will immediately change.
#7 – Have an attitude of gratitude.
When Sir John Templeton was interviewed and he was asked what the definition of wealth is, he replied, “Live with an attitude of gratitude”. Everyday, look for things you should be grateful for. I don’t care how tough things get, there is always something you can be grateful for, whether it is as simple as the fact that you have eyes to see things with, a roof over your head or a bed to sleep in. Look for and be grateful for 5 things everyday, seek to live with an attitude of gratitude and watch your entire attitude towards life change.
So there you have it – 7 tips you can use immediately to change your attitude.
Remember, you have complete control over your attitude – you can choose the way you feel.
So use these 7 steps to improve your attitude and you’ll be amazed at how much more relaxed and happier you will feel.
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